New experiences help children grow—whether it’s trying a new food, joining a new activity, or stepping into a classroom for the first time. But for many kids, “new” equals scary, and fear of failure or the unknown can stop them from even trying.
As parents, we want our children to be open to new experiences without pushing them too hard or creating pressure. The good news is: you can gently guide your child toward bravery—without forcing or rushing the process.
In this article, you’ll learn how to encourage your child to try new things with confidence, curiosity, and courage.
Why Kids Fear New Experiences
Children may resist new situations because of:
- Fear of failure or embarrassment
- Separation anxiety
- Sensory sensitivity or overstimulation
- Perfectionism
- Lack of control
- Previous negative experiences
Understanding the root of the fear allows us to respond with compassion, not frustration.
1. Validate Their Feelings First
Before encouraging action, acknowledge how they feel.
Say:
- “It makes sense that trying something new feels scary.”
- “You’re feeling nervous, and that’s okay.”
- “I get it—you don’t know what to expect, and that can be uncomfortable.”
Validation helps your child feel safe and heard—which is the first step to bravery.
2. Start with Small, Safe Challenges
Break big challenges into tiny, manageable steps. This builds confidence gradually.
Examples:
- If they’re scared of joining a new class, visit the space beforehand.
- If they won’t try a new food, let them touch or smell it first—no pressure to eat.
- If they resist speaking up, start with a wave or smile.
Small steps lead to big growth.
3. Model Trying New Things Yourself
Let your child see you do things that are new or uncomfortable, and narrate your process.
Say:
- “I’ve never done this before, and I feel nervous—but I’ll give it a try.”
- “I didn’t get it right the first time, but I’m glad I tried.”
- “This is new for me too, let’s be brave together.”
Your example teaches that courage isn’t about being fearless—it’s about trying anyway.
4. Use Encouraging Language (Not Pressure)
Encouragement empowers. Pressure paralyzes.
Avoid:
❌ “Come on! Just do it already.”
❌ “Stop being a baby.”
❌ “Everyone else is doing it.”
Instead, try:
✅ “You can try at your own pace.”
✅ “I’ll be right here if you need me.”
✅ “You’re so brave for even thinking about trying.”
Your tone sets the emotional stage.
5. Highlight the Joy of Discovery
Focus on the fun and learning, not just the result.
Say:
- “I wonder what you’ll discover today.”
- “You might find something you really enjoy.”
- “Trying new things is how we learn more about ourselves.”
Curiosity often feels safer than performance.
6. Celebrate Effort, Not Just Success
Trying something new is a win—even if it doesn’t go perfectly.
Celebrate moments like:
- Taking the first step
- Asking a question
- Trying again after fear
Say:
- “You were so brave to try that!”
- “You gave it your best effort, and that’s what matters.”
- “I’m proud of you for giving it a go.”
This builds internal motivation and reduces fear of failure.
7. Use “What If” Scenarios to Prepare
Talk through fears with gentle, realistic “what ifs.”
Example:
Child: “What if I don’t know anyone there?”
You: “What if you meet one nice person who helps you feel welcome?”
Child: “What if I mess up?”
You: “What if making a mistake helps you learn and grow?”
This helps them reframe fear with curiosity and possibility.
8. Don’t Rush or Force It
If your child says “no” today, respect it—but keep the door open for tomorrow.
You can say:
- “It’s okay to wait until you’re ready.”
- “We can try again another day.”
- “New things take time. I’m proud of you for thinking about it.”
Trust creates the courage to try.
9. Reflect After the Experience
Once they’ve tried something new—even if just a little—talk about it.
Ask:
- “How did it feel to try?”
- “What was the best part?”
- “Would you want to try again sometime?”
Reflection reinforces progress and boosts self-esteem.
10. Use Books and Stories About Bravery
Stories help children relate to characters who feel scared—but try anyway.
Look for books with:
- Courageous characters
- Overcoming fear
- Trying something new
- Making mistakes and growing
Then ask:
- “Have you ever felt like that?”
- “What would you have done in their shoes?”
Stories create emotional rehearsal.
Final Thought: Bravery Begins with Support
Encouraging your child to try new things isn’t about pushing—it’s about walking beside them, building trust, and cheering them on.
Each step they take—even the tiny ones—teaches them:
“I can do hard things.”
“It’s okay to feel scared and try anyway.”
“I have someone who believes in me.”
And with that foundation, they’ll keep growing into the brave, curious person they’re meant to be.